The Love Letter…

I was feeling inspired and needed to get this out the other day so I thought I’d share.

Relationships for Well-Adjusted Human Beings Relationships bring up a lot of crap. You can happily bury the less desirable things about yourself and your past when you’re single or at least graze the surface and avoid delving deep but suddenly Miss Right walks into your life upsetting your precious yet precarious balance and now you’ve got to share—at least you do if you want to get close and be real with her. Plus you have to find out if she’s the real deal, will she stick if she sees the ugly parts?

So now you’re yanking off all the tin foil covering your half-opened cans of ‘life crap’ that have been stashed away deep inside a closet, underneath several cardboard boxes, hidden beneath a creaky, mysterious floorboard because A) you want to be real, and B) her crap somehow calls to yours and you need to analyse what made you so unlovable and undesirable in the first place—which is why you were single for two years by the way. Congratulations.

So besides the roses, unicorns, and rainbows, beware the hidden life crap that will seep out because leakage, obviously, will fuck with your life, including but not limited to: causing insomnia, nausea, low productivity, stalling other relationships with others including yourself, etc.

Don’t let this scare you though. You can prepare yourself for the unsettling parts (as long as she really IS Miss Right and treats you well) and enjoy a period of magical joy—like who the hell knew that not sleeping in order to talk all night with your bae could feel so amazing and worth looking forward to? Or that the sincere compliments and expressions of love could make you feel like your heart just sprouted wings and is now trying to beat its way out of your chest like a certain energy beverage sans caffeine. No one else’s I love yous had ever sounded so sweet or held any measurable comparison because this is the real deal.

But wait, there’s a darker side to this. Emotions like fear and sadness may crop up creating situations of mayhem. Fear will say ‘what if she sees all the things wrong with me and runs in the opposite direction?’ and sadness will say ‘I hate fighting or arguing with you!’ or worse ‘Say what? You’re going to be unreachable for a week?! My life will become meaningless!’ Cue tears. What did I do wrongs will rear their ugly heads at any time in any place. So carry a box of tissues so as to avoid scenes of panic and tears in public.

Needless to say, you’re pretty sure you’ve never been this clingy or neurotic in your whole life but lo and behold, you’re the crazy hoarding cat lady but without the cats now. This beautiful, sweet, kind, loving, and compassionate woman has bewitched you and now you’re a raving psycho.

Well maybe not. After all, that’s a bit of a stretch, you had to have had some evident tendencies before now but that’s what relationships and strong emotions can do to a perfectly, well not well-adjusted or normal, but coping mess of a human being.

Eventually, the SO (significant other) will tire of these shenanigans—not that she’s completely perfect but even her flaws are sexy goddamnit!—and drop you like the whinging, neurotic basket case you are. Or, if she’s a real keeper, she’ll sigh, wrap her arm around you, and kiss the top of your head and say ‘You can be a neurotic basket case and I’ll still love you and be here.’ To which you’ll look up in awe and breathe out ‘Still?’ She’ll smile and reply, ‘Yes,’ and kiss you like she did the first time but slightly more chaste and exasperated.

Doubts may still linger in your mind because no one’s ever actually stayed to put up with your shit so Miss Right must be really special or she was dropped on her head a few times as a small child. Either way, you’re grateful and make a mental note to iron her shirts or vacuum more than once a month. You certainly don’t want a silly irritant to be the thing that finally makes her see some sense. My tip of the day is to just remind you that adequate mental preparation is key because when it comes to love anything can happen.

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I’ve been thinking about this business and I think it’s important that I be transparent about myself and my life so I’m baring myself. I think it’s important that you are who you are unapologetically. Obviously we don’t want to go out there and hurt people, but don’t put on the fake smile to make people like you because honestly, you lose yourself in that process. So be you, be real, be who you are in business and I think people will trust and respect you more. So here I am.

I’m committing to blogging more regularly and giving my readers (you guys! if you’re there *echoey Hellooooooooo*) more valuable info about writing, publishing, and what’s going on in this writer’s life (you’re dying to know, I know). I’ve been feeling inspired by posts from my female entrepreneur gurus like Leonie Dawson and Kat Loterzo (love those Aussies)! So I’ll catch you guys in a few days!

Ciao Ciao bellas!